Traveling with your significant other can be one of the best things that you can do together. Take some time to find adventure and have some old-fashioned fun and excitement again, the sort that happened easily and naturally when you were dating. Studies have shown that couples who travel together are happier overall and exploring a new place together will likely lead to a happier relationship. Why not reignite that spark and keep the home fires burning? Another survey from the US Travel Association shows that couples who travel together have better sexual relationships than those who don’t. New bed, new place, new sex. So why not do something adventurous with your husband or partner?
And that’s just what my husband and I did last week. We packed up the car and drove for five hours to the countryside of New York State. We had booked a great boutique bed and breakfast and the owner was a super chatty friendly guy who eager to share and inform about everything that the area had to offer. Following his suggestions, we decided to stay local and check out as much as we could in our time there. With map in hand, shorts, sneakers, hats and sunscreen we were ready for action and adventure. We hiked for miles on some great trails. We climbed up steep rocky crevasses feeling like two mountain goats; it took us completely out of our comfort zone, but woohoo! we did it! For our grand finale, we managed to schlepp ourselves up to the top of a stone tower which, thank goodness, was well worth it, providing us with the most incredible views in every direction. It was hot and we were sweaty, but we had completed our mission, we walked and climbed, talked and laughed for hours. At the end of the day after showering and feeling refreshed, we settled for a nice romantic dinner and an early night (I’ll leave the rest to your imagination).
.Next stop, Niagara Falls, where we had fun being tourists and let’s face it “when in Rome…”. We joined the red poncho brigade and boarded the ‘Horn blower’ to experience the full force of the falls. We walked for hours, admired neatly maintained gardens, sauntered around the back roads, ventured up the Sky tower to get the full aerial view and just soaked up all that our travels had to offer. We found fun restaurants and good food, we laughed a lot, had fun in the bedroom and felt like we used to feel about each other. I realized that in doing something with your spouse provides a shared experience that helps to truly solidify your relationship.
Couples need to have some fun together! I want to encourage you to do something fun and exciting with your spouse and do it on a fairly regular basis. Shake up your routine and get to know each other again. You don’t have to travel far, you just have to do something. So, be creative!
Those experiences help you to bond again and escape from the mundane, enjoy each other’s company and get out of your comfort zone. Make fun a priority, and make an intentional effort to create those moments.
You could find some hobbies to do together. This can help you feel more like a team, as you start doing these things, you’ll have more to talk about. Find laughter because whenever you laugh together tension dissipates and you feel closer. Share some common interests!
Here’s a short list of things you could do and go to together:
- Music performances
- Film festivals
- Museums/ art galleries
- Sporting events
- Cook together
- Have a picnic
- Bridge clubs
- RV Touring
- Create a bucket list
What have you always wanted to learn, do or try? Why not learn together? Fill your relationship with experiences that create wonderful memories that bring you closer together. Carve out time for each other, share your deepest dreams and goals with your spouse, make plans and work together. This will help you to find greater meaning in your marriage. Say “yes!” to intimate encounters and find exciting ways to spice things up in the bedroom. Make it fun!
Marriage is a wonderful gift, hopefully a lifetime partnership and it really doesn’t have to be boring. Be creative and make it enjoyable, become adventurous, curious and spontaneous. With a fun shared experience comes lots of opportunities to reminisce and remember all of those fun moments. YOU are creating your story, so let the tide of passion that rolled out of your relationship find its way back in, bringing a new stronger fun energy back with it!
I invite you to pause for a moment and look at how things are going for you?
Is your marriage healthy and vibrant?
What can you do to revitalize it if it feels stale?
Do you feel lost without your kids around?
What are your expectations of one another now that your children are no longer at home?
Are you ready to pull yourself out of a relationship rut?
If you would like some support in re-igniting your adventurous spark. please contact me, I’d love to help!
Jobs fill your pockets, adventures fill your soul. ~ Jamie Lyn Beatty
Diane Morgan works with women who are overwhelmed and torn by the aging process and have a hard time finding themselves and their place in life during and beyond midlife. She is the creator of a powerful transformational program Awaken Your Beauty Inside Out: Fall In Love With The Skin You’re In. This phenomenal program capitalizes on her 20 plus years of experience in the beauty industry and her expertise as a certified Master Empowerment Coach for women.