Truth be known, many of want to live a life with zest and happiness. It’s said that 40 is the new 30, and 50 is the new 40, as women are living much longer, and so aging is not only about what you look like, but how you feel. Getting older is inevitable, and while you can’t control your age, you can slow down the process with the choices and thoughts you make along the way. Therefore, what’s good for your body is good for your brain. That means a well-balanced diet, making sure you’re eating plenty of fruits and veggies, cutting back on sugar and alcohol, as well as getting a good amount of regular exercise and about eight hours of good sleep.
Don’t forget that our attitudes, ideas, and beliefs are just as important as our health and diets.
There is a proven connection between how your brain thinks and the way your body feels. Change the way you think, become aware of your thoughts, and you will find that you’ll start changing your thinking about other areas of your life and getting amazing results. Of course, positive thinking is not a cure-all, but a healthy mindset certainly will help to maintain a healthy body and slow down the aging process. Therefore, we must be willing to believe that we do have some control over our own health. Your best years aren’t behind you, they’re just ahead.
Now, if you have a fixed mindset, and say things such as, “I’m too old for that” or “I can’t do that anymore,” then your mind will accept that statement as a true fact. If you tell yourself your forgetful and clumsy ~Bam! You’ll become just that. Simply put, your mind will see you as old. Your thoughts determine your age and lot of people in midlife are trapped in their fixed ideas and feel as if there are no pathways to change, but there’s always a way for a change. The way you expect to age, and the beliefs you have about aging, are affecting you right now!
What can we do to change?
- We can change our thoughts quite easily, but beliefs can take a little longer. The way to change your beliefs is to start to question them. Ask yourself where did they originate and why you hold onto them? Then, bring in your good friend, doubt, because the more you question a belief, the more you will begin to doubt it.
- Scientific studies have shown that regular exercise can help to slow down the effects of aging. Among other benefits, regular exercise helps us to maintain our strength, endurance, and flexibility as we age.
- Meditation, the positive effects of regular meditation apply despite your age, so you can start meditating, Research suggests that meditating just a few minutes a day can make your brain younger, and the best thing about meditating is that there is no right or wrong way to do it.
- Appreciate your body, try doing an internal body scan from head to toe, and compliment everything about you, from top to bottom. Start with your hair, your eyes, your smile and move on down all the way to your toes. Thank your body, for everything it does, everything it has done, and everything it will do for you in the future. If you have to, now is a good time to apologize for all of the negative things you’ve thought and said about it.
- Drink plenty of water as it is one of the most important things we can do for ourselves. It helps us to look and feel good. Our cells cannot regenerate or repair without it, as our bodies are made of 90 percent water. As we age we tend to lose more water from our bodies and if you are not drinking enough water then it can create dull dry skin and cause more wrinkles.
Learn to love and accept yourself. You don’t have to be skinny or be a certain weight, as real beauty comes from within. Let go of any negative self-talk and be true to the person you are today. Live in the moment and remain grateful. Discover your authentic self and find out what truly resonates with your inner being. Find out what lights you up. As Benjamin Franklin said, “While we may not be able to control all that happens to us, we can control what happens inside us.”
Let your inner light shine brightly.
We all want to feel good about the way we look, so here are seven tips to help you feel good at any age.
1. Update your hairstyle. Find a picture of a hairstyle that you like and take it to your stylist. You don’t have to chop off your locks. Do what feels right for you.
2. Dress in what feels comfortable and fun for you, and don’t be afraid to make an entrance, just because you’re older doesn’t mean your invisible. I wouldn’t go too young, so stay out of your daughter’s wardrobe. Classic shapes in well-cut materials might suit you better. Most of all, you are never too old to wear denim.
3. Find the right makeup if you enjoy wearing it. Don’t pile on the bright colors. Choose matte shades in neutral colors like grey and taupe. Find some light coverage like BB creams or light, soft, foundations. There are tons of tutorials to watch on YouTube, about how to apply makeup correctly. Remember, less is more.
4. Take care of your skin. Find some good skincare products for yourself. It’s never too late to start and you are worth it. Give your skin what it needs and always remember your sunscreen, to drink water, and eat well.
5. Whiten your teeth. As they say, ‘a smile is worth a thousand words.’ Let your smile get better with age. If you’re not into teeth whitening, then smile more. It can make you happier and it activates all of the good muscles in your face.
6. Laugh more (speaking of happier). Look for ways to build laughter into your daily routine. According to several studies, laughter relaxes your muscles, releases feel-good chemicals, and may even help to protect your heart.
7. Have more sex. Studies have found that couples who make love more frequently look much younger. The thinking behind this study is that pleasure derived from sex is a crucial factor in preserving youth.
Making lifestyle changes can become fun and easy. Once you start, you’ll find yourself making more of them because you’ll soon be able to see and feel the results. Change your thoughts, change your beliefs, create new habits, and you’ll change your life. Those small changes can give you big results. Repetition is the mother of all skills and over time, with practice, it will show that what’s on the inside can translate to what you look like on the outside. It’s your journey and you can live a longer, healthier life, IF, you choose too.
You can look and feel great whatever your age.
What are you telling yourself? Are you telling yourself you are healthy, smart and full of energy? Or, is your self-talk negative? Are you constantly complaining and telling yourself your old and not as peppy as you used to be?
Remember, your body is listening. Your mind is listening.
If you need support, then get in touch with me and let’s have a free virtual tea and chat.
Much love Diane.
Age is simply the number of years the world has been enjoying you.
Weathering by Fleur Adcock
Literally thin-skinned, I suppose, my face
catches the wind off the snow-line and flushes
with a flush that will never wholly settle. Well:
that was a metropolitan vanity,
wanting to look young forever, to pass.
I was never a pre-Raphaelite beauty
nor anything but pretty enough to satisfy
men who need to be seen with passable women.
But now that I am in love with a place
which doesn’t care how I look, or if I’m happy,
happy is how I look, and that’s all.
My hair will grow grey in any case,
my nails chip and flake, my waist thickens,
and the years’ work all their usual changes.
If my face is to be weather-beaten as well
that’s little enough lost, a fair bargain
for a year among the lakes and fells, when simply
to look out of my window at the high pass
makes me indifferent to mirrors and to what
my soul may wear over its new complexion.
Diane Morgan works with women who are overwhelmed and torn by the aging process and struggle with grief and loss. Those that have a hard time finding themselves and their place in life during and beyond midlife. She is the creator of a powerful transformational program Awaken Your Beauty Inside Out: Fall In Love With The Skin You’re In. This phenomenal program capitalizes on her 20 plus years of experience in the beauty industry and her expertise as a certified Master Empowerment Coach for women.