The end of the year is a time to pause for reflection. It’s a way to remember those special moments and appreciate all of the little and big things that were part of your year gone by. A time to reminisce where you’ve been, and think about where you would like to go. Questions to be asked of yourself, and a time to look at what you’ve experienced, discovered and achieved this past year?
Take out your journal or notepad and write down your answers to these questions. Let’s look back over your year and start to plan for the next. Writing down your thoughts and ideas automatically helps you to focus on them. So, please put some time aside, find a cozy comfortable place and enjoy the process. This time is for you!
A few questions to ask yourself.
How was your year?
What are you most proud of from your achievements in the past year? Look at what you created both good and bad. What lessons did you learn and have you changed? What new things did you discover about yourself? Which new skills did you learn? What was the biggest problem you solved? What did you enjoy the most?
Where did you fail?
This is a hard thing to do, but a great exercise to help you move forward. Failure is a good thing. Without it how would you grow? Embrace any failures you may have had and don’t be hard on yourself. Just be honest. Remember that our struggles, our mistakes and our failures help to make us unique. Plus, they teach us powerful lessons. Don’t be afraid to ask yourself, what didn’t work out the way you wanted it too? Look and see if there were any opportunities that you passed up on. What regrets do you have? What do you need to stop doing? Failures teach us about ourselves and how to tell the truth.
What are you thankful for?
What have you experienced that you feel grateful for? What were your successes? Who was important to you? How much fun have you had this year? Who has helped you, been influential or impacted your life this year? How did your achievements make you feel? What was the single best thing that happened to you this year? When did you laugh the hardest or cry the loudest?
What will you do differently?
Remember, the one thing that you can control is yourself. So, if you want next year to be different, then how do you want it to be? Do you want it to be better? Which habits do you want to change or get rid of? Which worries turned out to be a complete waste of time and energy?
Take some time to appreciate yourself.
When you appreciate yourself, you are just thankful and you don’t have to wait for other people to appreciate you. Use kind words. Think about something that you enjoy learning. You could look at how you feel about your health or your body. Ask yourself what brings you pleasure? What do you bring to others? What is your passion? Is there something you’re enjoying at work? Maybe you appreciate taking long walks by yourself and truly enjoying your own company? Do you say thank you to yourself?
Try a fun exercise. Looking back what type of movie would emulate your life last year?
Was it a romantic year of looking for love, filled with fun dates and not so fun dates? Maybe a documentary because it was a year of learning? A good action movie filled with exciting adventure and travel? Was it a year of laughter and fun, one that makes for a good comedy? Or, was it filled with drama that made you feel sad?
Looking back on your year, was it shiny and bright? Or, a year that you’d rather put behind you?
Time to Plan for Next Year.
First, try this fun exercise. Close your eyes and imagine what you would want your life to look like next year? Imagine that there are no limits, you have financial independence and you are not bound by time. Dream big and make it fun. The idea of this exercise is to get clear on what you want. So, plan your vacation or your birthday and get those juices flowing.
What are your goals?
Forget resolutions they don’t work. Goals can be meaningful and when backed up with a plan they will provide you with direction, focus and a sense of purpose. Goals will give you a direction to aspire. Look at where you would like to be in one, two, or five years from now. Ask yourself what excites you the most? Keep it realistic and set goals that are attainable. Goals can transform your life. Let’s get energized and motivated.
What’s your plan of action?
Ok, so you’ve listed your goals now and it’s time to make a plan of action. Goals take time and energy, so make a commitment to yourself and know exactly why you want them. Ask yourself how will I do it? Then break them down into action steps that you can take each month. Put them on your calendar and cross them off as you go along. Keep them in the forefront of your mind. Create habits that can lead you to your goals.Change doesn’t happen overnight. However, change will come as long as you enjoy building the life that you were meant to live.
If the glass is half empty you’ll be running on empty. Remember to schedule some time for yourself. Yes, it is important to do the things that make you happy, that way it shows and inspires others around you that you resect yourself. Schedule things like, quality time with loved ones, self-care, relaxation, fun and laughter. Spend time with people who lift you up and support you and let go of any that do not. Be sure to do something for yourself every week.
Create a vision for your life.
Get in touch with what you value. Think about what you desire and know what you are passionate about. We are all unique so look at your gifts and strengths. Get to know yourself and base your goals on what feels right for you and not on the opinion or expectations of others. Be clear on what you’d love in your life? Write down they key areas of your life you’d like to work on; relationships, career, lifestyle, finances, health and well-being. What would be ideal for you?
What’s your mantra or word of the year?
You can create a theme or a mantra for the year ahead. Start by saying:
2018 will be the year of? ___________
Or pick a single word that stands out for you and marks your intentions.
As you plan and move into your new year, be mindful of the life you want to live and how you want to feel every single day; stress-free, loving, creative, inspired, and focused, Be present in each moment and please don’t think that once you’ve achieved your goals you’ll finally be happy. Alas, there’s always more in life to go after. Happiness is truly a mindset. By being grateful and enjoying your life right now will allow you to find the inspiration, the motivation and the energy to live a fulfilled life. This will allow you to achieve any or all of your amazing goals and dreams.
I invite you to spend some time in reflection and find some magic for the coming year. Set your intention and dream big, plan, create and go for it!
Wishing you all peace, love and joy for 2018
And now we welcome the new year. Full of things that have never been.
~ Rainer Maria Rilke
Diane Morgan works with women who are overwhelmed and torn by the aging process and have a hard time finding themselves and their place in life during and beyond midlife. She is the creator of a powerful transformational program Awaken Your Beauty Inside Out: Fall In Love With The Skin You’re In. This phenomenal program capitalizes on her 20 plus years of experience in the beauty industry and her expertise as a certified Master Empowerment Coach for women.